If you listen to the interaction between adults and kids, you’ll often hear the phrase “good girl” or “good boy” each time a child does something right. This seems to be especially true of a young child who is just learning to crawl or walk. Each move in the right direction is met with shouts of praise and exclamations of goodness.
But I don’t want my daughter to think her worth is tied up in her ability to crawl or walk. Or draw a picture. Or even to follow our house rules.
I desperately want our daughter to find her worth in Christ alone.
So Dan and I have removed “good girl” from our vocabulary. And it’s been hard because we were so used to it. But by replacing it with specific praise, “You drew a wonderful cow! What’s she doing?” we take one small step toward her finding her worth outside of what she does.
Besides, perhaps raising a good girl isn’t the point.