Kids mess up. A lot. They forget the rules. Or deliberately ignore them. They throw tantrums at really inconvenient times.
Kids mess up because they’re kids. Because they’re human.
And I want my kiddo to know that my worth is not tied to her behavior. That I will strive not to be embarrassed when she melts down in public. Because melting down makes her human; it doesn’t make me a bad mom.
Besides, when we react to our kids out of embarrassment or with our worth all mixed up in it, we tend to react poorly.
Someday the stakes will be higher. She’ll grow up and her choices will have life-altering consequences. She’ll make decisions about education. And money. And sex. And relationships. And I want my one-day big kid to know that my worth is not tied to her behavior.
And neither is hers.