Last week I wrote an open letter to introverts in the church (I, too, am an introvert). I mentioned some of the misunderstandings people have about introverts and some of the struggle introverts face – particularly in the church setting.
“I don’t do sensitive; I’m an INTJ.”
“I can’t help but push you out of the way and take control; it’s my personality.”
“It’s not my fault I forgot to follow through (again); it’s how God made me.”
Nope. That’s not how it works. Knowing our personalities and the personalities of those we live and work with gives us greater insight into living well. When we understand our personalities, we can better understand our strengths and our weaknesses. But our personalities should never be used as an excuse for poor behavior.
“As an introvert it makes me uncomfortable to talk to new people, so I won’t.”
Nope, not cutting it.
“As an introvert it makes me uncomfortable to talk to new people, but I’ll do it anyway because I know it’s important to make others feel welcome. I’ll also make sure that after I spend time in an umcomfortable setting, I give myself time to recharge.”
Yup, that’ll do.
Do you notice personalities getting used as a cover up for poor behavior?