When you have to explain to the 10th person in one morning why your child can’t have food with red dye. Or that you don’t put pictures of her on Facebook. Or the importance of your kiddo having his inhaler with him at all times. When the neighbor sees your cloth diapers hanging from the clothes line.
It’s really easy to become THAT mom. If you vary just slightly from the norms of your surrounding culture, all of a sudden you’re a troublemaker. You’re THAT mom.
In one place you’re THAT mom because you buy organic. In other places you’re THAT mom because you don’t.
We recently took our daughter off of gluten because we think some health issues are stemming from her gluten intake. I’ve already been gluten free for over six years, so it’s not that big of an adjustment. Except when we’re out. Instead of me quietly not eating or bringing my own food, I have to assert myself and make sure my daughter is kept safe.
Try to keep it low key; don’t go around preaching or lobbying.
But stand firm on what’s best for your child. For the benefit of your family. For the safety of your child.
It’s not anyone’s job to be your child’s mother, but you. Decide where your non-negotiables lie (or where medical conditions insist they lie) and show your kids they are worth you being labeled THAT mom.
Oh, and use your experience to stop labeling THOSE moms.
Do you have any experience being THAT mom?